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Rome visit, June 2008 – 57

December 3, 2013 on 1:40 am | In Dreamscapes | 58 Comments

These pictures were taken during a trip to Rome in Jun 2008, where I presented a 2-day seminar on "Web 2.0".

I noticed this couple, sitting on the railing that separates the vehicular roadway from the pedestrian part of the Piazza del Popolo. I couldn’t tell if they were arguing, engaged in a who-blinks-first? contest, or just having a thoughtful conversation…

I can’t help wondering if this couple had any idea how many people would look at their picture (a little over 14,000 as of January 2012), and how many different bizarre blog postings — well over a hundred, at this point, from all over the world — would use the image of their conversation to illustrate their message. To see all the places where the photo has been published (at least, all of the ones that I’m aware of), see below…

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Note: this photo was published on Jul 8, 2008 in a blog posting entitled "Reader Question: Handling Pressure to Apologize." It was also published in an Aug 21, 2008 blog article entitled "Marriage, money, debt, and divorce?" And it was published in a Jan 27, 2009 blog article entitled "Complaining’s Place In Marriage." In addition, it was published in a Jan 13, 2009 blog titled "Karen Kalisek’s Top 20 Things To Help (1-5)." More recently, it was published in a March 17, 2009 "Mind Hack" blog article titled "Dominant chemicals." And it was published in a Sep 13, 2009 blog titled "How to Fight With Your Partner."

A few days later, it was published in a Sep 18, 2009 blog titled "Couple’s Counseling: Why I Don’t Take Sides." And it was published in an Oct 20, 2009 Greek blog titled "Η ψυχολογική κακοποίηση των ανδρών." It was also published in a Nov 4, 2009 blog titled "10 tips for traveling as a couple – and not breaking up." And it was published in a Nov 14, 2009 blog titled "How Thoughtful Words Save Marriages." It was also published in an undated (late-November 2009) blog titled "Democratia cuplului." It was also published, on page 5 of 8, in a Nov 14, 2009 blog titled "Best of the Week: Forbidden Gifts, Landlord Secrets & More."

One of the more unusual publications of this photo was in a Dec 7, 2009 blog titled "Separated Spouses Filing Bankruptcy Together." It was also published in a Nov 30, 2009 blog titled "The Language Barrier."

Moving into 2010, the photo was published in a Jan 7, 2010 blog titled "Everyone has a bad day." It was also published in a Jan 7, 2010 blog titled "Dealing with travel-partner conflicts." And it was published in an undated (Jan 2010) blog titled "Avoiding the Heartbreak Hostel: 10 Simple Rules For Backpacking Lovin’ for Female Travellers." It was also published in a Jan 18, 2010 Greek blog titled "Τι συμβαίνει στην αγάπη μετά το γάμοl." And it was published in a Jan 20, 2010 blog titled "CityFiles: Letting them down easy (he said/she said)."

It was also published in a Jan 22, 2010 blog titled "Infidelity Doesn’t Have to Mean Divorce," and a Jan 24, 2010 blog titled "Both partners need to be involved." It was also published in a Feb 5, 2010 Dutch blog titled "‘Wij’ gelukkiger dan ‘ik’." And it was published in an undated (Feb 2010) blog titled "Adult Separation Anxiety." And it was published in a Jan 30, 2010 Wikihow blog page with the same title as the caption that I used for this Flickr page. I’ve also discovered that it was published in a Feb 12, 2010 Canadian blog titled "We need to talk (about the history of marriage counselling)." And it was published in an undated (Mar 2010) blog titled "Communication Skill Lesson Plan." It was also published in a Mar 25, 2010 blog titled "Marital Gridlock And Growing Up." It was also published in a Mar 28, 2010 blog titled "In today’s culture, sex is public but love is private." And it was published in a Mar 30, 2010 blog titled "Professional honeymooners: dream job or nightmare?"

There’s more: the photo was published in an Apr 5, 2010 blog titled "John Mayer Was Right: You Gotta Say What You Need To Say." And it was published in an Apr 6, 2010 blog titled "Miscarraiges [sic] Strain Marriages." It was also published in an Apr 8, 2010 blog titled "Why We Stay With Unfaithful Partners." And it was published in an Apr 9, 2010 blog titled "Foursquare Becomes Great Predictor Of Divorce," as well as an Apr 10, 2010 blog titled Relationship Advice | Too Immature for Relationship It was also published in an Apr 13, 2010 Italian blog titled "Uomini col Mestruo, un gruppo su Facebook smaschera i senza palle." And it was published in a May 14, 2010 Peruvian(?) blog titled "Codependencia: Cuando la propia identidad se pierde en la pareja." It was also published in a Jun 11, 2010 blog titled "Is Divorce Contagious?" It was also published in a Jun 25, 2010 blog titled "The Magic Of Making Up – Authors Overview," and a Jun 26, 2010 blog titled "The struggle for control in a relationship." A similar blog, titled "The stages of relationships: Phase 3: The power struggle," was published on Jun 28, 2010; and on the same day, the photo was published in a Trés Sugar blog titled "Finding Out Why We Fight Might Help Us Patch Things Up." It was also published in a Jun 29, 2010 Mashable blog titled "Facebook Becoming a Prime Source for Divorce Case Evidence," and I’m pretty sure that the Spanish edition of the same blog appeared on Jun 30, 2010 with a title of "Servicio gratis de mediación para divorcios en Gipuzkoa."

Moving into the second half of 2010, the photo was published in a Jul 2, 2010 blog titled " I Want My Husband To Love Me Again – 4 Ways To Rekindle Your Romance." It was also published in a Jul 8, 2010 blog about insurance, titled "How Can I Convince You?" And it was published in an undated (Jul 2010) blog titled "Adult Separation Anxiety." It was also published in a Jul 12, 2010 blog titled "Temas tabúes en las relaciones de pareja." And it was published in a Jul 14, 2010 blog titled "Initiative to Ban Divorce in California Resurfaces." It was also published in a Jul 15, 2010 Dating 1001 blog, with the same title as the caption that I used on this Flickr page. It was also published in a Jul 25, 2010 blog titled "Businesses Capitalizing on High Unemployment." And it was published in a Jul 29, 2010 blog titled "How to Deal With Financial Infidelity," as well as a Jul 29, 2010 blog titled "Words of Wisdom: Ryan Holiday. It was also published in a Sep 6, 2010 blog titled "Living together apart – Conviviendo juntos pero separados." And it was published in a Sep 15, 2010 blog titled "Is Your Debt A Relationship Killer?" It was also published in a Sep 17, 2010 blog titled "We Got Into An Argument, Part I." And it was published in a Sep 18, 2010 blog titled "Saving It." It was also published in a Sep 25, 2010 blog titled "Help Save My Marriage – What To Do." And it was published in an undated (late Sep) "Dating Advice Expert" blog titled "Marital dispute: An overview of court proceedings." It was also published in a Sep 30, 2010 blog titled "It’s a Guy Thing." And it was published in an undated (Oct 2010) blog titled "Dealing with Infidelity is a Response by Couples in Trouble." It was also published in an Oct 15, 2010 Judy Cares blog titled "Is it a Marriage or a Relationship?", as well as an Oct 19, 2010 blog titled "Moving Forward in a Marriage: Forgiving the Minor Mistakes." And it was published in an Oct 26, 2010 blog titled "Relationships should be Easy and fun." It was also published in an Oct 29, 2010 blog titled "I suggested couples counseling and my fiance said “I don’t do counseling. What should I do?", and another Oct 29, 2010 blog titled "Cosas que no debes decir en una cita."

Moving into November, it was published in a Nov 2, 2010 blog titled "Justicia rechaza el 7% de las demandas de divorcio por no cumplir requisitos." It was also published in an undated (Nov 2010) blog titled "Relationship Break Up Advice – How to Save Your Broken Relationship." And it was published in a Nov 8, 2010 blog titled "Welcome to Improve Sex Life." It was also published in a Nov 15, 2010 blog titled "Question of the Week: How has chronic illness impacted your marriage?", and a Nov 16, 2010 blog titled "Lastest [sic] Debt Counseling News." And it was published in an undated (mid-Nov 2010) Lying Lovers blog titled "Recovering From Infidelity – Crucial Steps to Rebuilding Your Marriage." It was also published in an undated (late Nov 2010) blog titled "Long Distance Relationships: How to Know When it’s Time to Call it Quits," and it was published in an undated (late Nov 2010) blog titled "Reconciliation is Possible with the Help of a Couples Counseling NYC Therapist." It was also published in a Dec 3, 2010 blog titled "Will Your Marriage Succeed Or Fail?", as well as a Dec 3, 2010 blog titled "Sole Sisters’ Guide to Keeping Sane While Traveling in Twos." And it was published in a Dec 6, 2010 blog titled "1 de cada 5 divorcios usan a Facebook como prueba de infidelidad." It was also published in an undated (mid-Dec 2010) Hospital Medical Billing Fraud blog titled "Do Infertile People Make Better Parents?" And it was published in a Dec 13, 2010 Polish blog titled "Kobiety kłamią inaczej niż faceci. Kto częściej?." It was also published in a Dec 27, 2010 blog titled "The Easy Way to Make Money Online Everyday." And it was published in a Dec 30, 2010 blog titled "Relationship Cues: Sensing the Unspoken." Finally, it was published in a Dec 31, 2010 blog titled "Divorced and Co-Parenting: How to Get Along With Your Ex."

Moving into 2011, the photo was first published in a Jan 2, 2011 blog titled " Importance Of Medical Insurance Plans." It was also published in a Jan 3, 2011 blog titled "Car Insurance Tips for Mature Drivers in Florida, as well as a Jan 5, 2011 Forbes.com blog titled "5 Ways Your Partner Can Ruin Your Credit." It was also published in a Jan 6, 2011 "Learn to Earn Online blog, with the same title and descriptive notes as what I had originally written on this Flickr page. It was also published in a Jan 10, 2011 blog titled "Bankruptcy Rules Review." And it was published in an undated (mid-Jan 2011) "Counseling Rehab" blog titled "4 Ways to Treat Your Addiction." It was also published in a Jan 13, 2011 blog titled "Waiting for Debt Help and Free Debt Advice?" And it was published in a Jan 15, 2011 blog titled "Online Dating Tips: How To Create A Great Profile." It was also published in a Jan 16, 2011 blog titled "Farmville Cheats And Associated Dangers," and another Jan 16, 2011 blog titled "Searching For The Fastest Way to Make Money Online?" It was also published in a Jan 17, 2010 pinkblog.it blog titled "Coppia: non perdonare il partner fa bene al rapporto." And it was published in a Jan 18, 2011 blog titled "How to Keep a Conversation Going." It was also published in a Jan 20, 2011 blog titled "5 Tips for Taking a Successful Online Dating Profile Photo." And it was published in an undated (late Jan 2011) blog titled "Why Social And Traditional Media Marketers Should Stop Acting Like Fighting Lovers." It was also published in a Jan 26, 2011 blog titled "Facebook cheating, restaurant websites and living in caves with Dinner Party Download." And it was published in an undated (late Jan 2011) blog titled "Stop Arguing Your Relationships to Death." It was also published in a Jan 30, 2011 blog titled "Ask the Readers: Hiding Money from Your Spouse."

The photo was also published in an undated (early Feb 2011) blog titled "Debt Relief Consolidation – Tips To Find Free Debt Help Online," with the caption and detailed notes that I provided on this Flickr page, followed by some more serious comments about the details of debt relief consolidation. And it was published in a Feb 8, 2011 blog titled "Female partners of heavy gamblers – victims or enablers?", and a Feb 13, 2011 blog titled "5 Sizzling Online Dating Tips." It was also published in a Feb 15, 2011 blog titled "The 1st Key for Dealing with Marital Strife," and it was published in a Feb 24, 2011 blog titled "Do You Know Your Rights?" It was also published in a Mar 8, 2011 blog titled 4 Reasons Why Open Marriage Doesnt Work," and a Mar 11, 2011 blog titled "What Do Musicians Really Earn Online?" And it was published in a Mar 16,2011 Car Insurance Companies blog, with the same caption and detailed notes that I had written on this Flickr page. It was also published in an undated (mid-Mar 2011) Website titled Especialistas en Divorcios. And it was published in a Mar 21, 2011 blog titled "Make love, not war: enjoy travel as a couple." It was also published in an undated (late Mar 2011) blog titled "Things You Must Know About Free Debt Consolidation Services." And it was published in a Mar 24, 2011 Nice How to Make Money Online Photos blog, with the same caption and detailed notes that I used on this Flickr page. It was also published in a Mar 30, 2011 blog titled "Gründe für die Eifersucht." And it was published in an Apr 7, 2011 blog titled "The Italian Language Learning," as well as an Apr 8, 2011 blog titled "How to Make People Angry," and an Apr 10, 2011 blog titled "Gründe für die Eifersucht." It was also published in an Apr 20, 2011 blog titled "6 Common mistakes that can ruin your relationship." And it was published in an undated (late Apr 2011) blog titled "Cuáles son las señales de una relación abusiva o que no es sana?", as well as an undated (late Apr 2011) blog titled "What are the Signs of an Unhealthy or Abusive Relationship?" It was also published in an Apr 26, 2011 blog titled "How To Make Your Dates More Pleasant And Enjoyable." And it was published in a May 16, 2011 blog titled "Parents Relationship Affects Quality of Children’s Sleep." It was also published in a May 23, 2011 blog titled
"Want Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night? Try Harmony in Your Relationship." And it was published in a May 27, 2011 blog titled " ‘My Wife Won’t Have Sex with Me’ Is a Pathetic Excuse to Cheat," as well as an undated (late May 2011) blog titled "Why is it so hard to change relationships?"

It was also published in a Jun 1, 2011 blog titled "Should You Dispute a Performance Appraisal?" And it was published in a Jun 10, 2011 blog titled "Four signs you’re heading for divorce," as well as a Jun 10, 2011 blog titled "Becoming a Better Woman From the Inside Out." It was also published in a Jun 11, 2011 blog titled "Discuss How To Earn Money Online," as well as a Jun 11, 2011 blog titled "The Online Dating Game On Twitter – How Does it Work?" And it was published in a Jun 22, 2011 blog titled "Mistakes in Choosing a Marriage Partner," and a Jun 22, 2011 blog titled "Anatomy of A Marital Argument." It was also published in a Jun 30, 2011 blog titled "Talk Money for Relationship Success." And it was published in a Jul 22, 2011 blog titled "Provocative Phrase Friday — Her marriage was over + 11 Other Writing Prompts." It was also published in an undated (late Jul 2011) blog titled "Communication Skill Lesson Plan." And it was published in a Jul 31, 2011 blog titled "Rebuilding Your Marriage After An Affair." It was also published in an Aug 5,2011 Czech blog titled "Děláte dost pro Váš vztah?", as well as an Aug 5, 2011 blog titled Bankruptcy in San Antonio ? Why Me? And it was published in an Aug 6, 2011 blog titled "Wells Fargo And Wachovia Merger Is Bad News For Divorced Couple." It was also published in an Aug 15, 2011 blog titled "ACCORD report that the Internet is the fastest growing factor for marital difficulties in Ireland – but is that the full story?" And it was published in an Aug 19, 2011 blog titled "Why Senior Citizens Need To Get Reliable Travel Insurance." It was also published in an Aug 24, 2011 blog titled "Vrouwen winnen de meeste rubies." And it was published in an Aug 30, 2011 blog titled "BILL GROSS: Global Economy Is Like A Marriage "Teetering On The Edge Of Divorce"."

Moving on, the photo was published in a Sep 5, 2011 blog with the curious title of "Gnats’ farts and gender" at vickihollett-dot-com-slash-?p=3957". It was also published in a Sep 5, 2011 blog titled "Separated Chileans opt for unconventional living arrangements," as well as a Sep 5, 2011 blog titled "Děláte dost pro Váš vztah?." It was also published in an undated (early Sep 2011) blog titled "Adult Separation Anxiety." And it was published in a Sep 14, 2011 blog titled "It’s Not Just About Spanking." It was also published (though I have no idea why) in an Oct 6, 2011 blog titled "San Antonio Storage." It was also published in a Nov 11, 2011 blog titled "La ansiedad por la separación es un trastorno cada vez mas frecuente en nuestros hijos0." And it was published in a Nov 16, 2011 blog titled "Poll: Balancing two ambitious careers." It was also published in a Nov 21, 2011 blog titled "Von Vertrauen und Misstrauen." And it was published in a Nov 23, 2011 blog titled "When Is It Time To Move On From A Relationship," and a Nov 23, 2011 Faith Village blog titled "How to Fight Fairly." It was also published in a Nov 28, 2011 blog titled "5 Questions To Ask Yourself To See If You’ll Need A Pre-Nup." And it was published in a Dec 2, 2011 blog titled "Renting a Car in Ireland?", as well as a Dec 5, 2011 blog titled "Relationship Quotes," and another Dec 5, 2011 blog titled "Phrases to Avoid in Conversation – What Not to Say During a Fight with Your Beloved." It was also published in a Dec 6, 2011 blog titled "Single Parents – Dating and Family Strife."

Moving into 2012, the photo was published in a Jan 2, 2012 blog titled "? Why? ? Auto insurance cos? vile? expensive in the UK?", as well as a Jan 2, 2012 blog titled "I’m 33 years old with a second DUI. What’s the best way to go about a job search?", and a Jan 2,2012 blog titled "Ask LH: How Do I Get Out Of An Argument With An Irrational Person?" It was also published in a Jan 4,2012 blog titled "Procurment Homes Need not " Dress" Good?" And it was published in an undated (early Jan 2012) Death Note Wallpaper blog, with the same caption and detailed notes that I had written on this Flickr page. It was also published in an undated (early Jan 2012) blog titled "Adult Separation Anxiety."

Also, the photo was published in an Apr 19, 2012 blog titled "What’s Your Deal-Breaker?" It was also published in an Apr 23, 2012 blog titled "When An Over-Spender Ruins Someone You Love." And it was published in an Apr 27, 2012 blog titled "“Solo lei vuole un figlio”… quando il desiderio di genitorialità non è condiviso," as well as an Apr 27, 2012 blog titled "ANGLO-ITALIAN Experience Their First Travel “Discussion” – FOLLOW UP." It was also published in a May 2, 2012 blog titled "Morar junto antes de casar aumenta chances de divórcio, aponta estudo," as well as a May 2, 2012 blog titled Τι είναι και τι δεν είναι σταυρός στην οικογένεια." It was also published in a May 16, 2012 blog titled "Why You Shouldn’t Have Sex with Your Roommate," as well as a May 25, 2012 blog titled "What is a MA declaration of homestead?" It was also published in a May 9, 2012 blog titled " Annulment vs. Legal Separation: 3 Differences You Should Know About." And it was published in a Jun 10, 2012 blog titled "How To Improve Your Relationships ." It was also published in a Jun 13, 2012 blog titled "15 Relationship Truths for Tough Times." And it was published in a Jun 22, 2012 blog titled "Episode 116 Should Parents Fight in Front of their Kids?," as well as a Jun 23, 2012 Gigazine blog titled "アイデアはどこからやって来るのか?という20項目" (which means, I think, "where do ideas come from?") It was also published in a Jun 22, 2012 blog titled "Reconnecting Depressed Partners Despite Fear and Shame," and a Jun 23, 2012 blog titled "Commitment-Phobic Employers Do Their Best to Mimic Your Ex-Boyfriend."

Moving into 2013, the photo was published in an early Jan 2013 blog titled "Jesteś inny niż kiedyś." It was also published in a Jan 16, 2013 blog titled "Can a collection agency garnish your wages? in california?" It was also published in a Jan 28, 2013 blog titled "US-California: E ‘can temporarily change the withholding tax on wages for a period of 2 months?" And it was published in a Feb 14, 2013 blog titled "New Gender Studies minor has major plans for the future." It was also published in a Feb 20, 2013 blog titled "Time to Succumb." And it was published in a Mar 6, 2013 blog titled "Ten Steps to Healthy Fighting in a Relationship," as well as a Mar 8, 2013 blog titled "Para não brigar com as mulheres, maioria dos homens prefere mudar de opinião, diz pesquisa."

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  1. …and t is being used in another blog post! ;-) I was looking for an image to accompany a post on how to live with loved ones during the recession – specifically – to avoid the pitfalls of arguing and placing blame. I thought this image conveys very nicely the concept of two human beings that are unhappy with each other – nice shot.

    You can see the post here:

    wefoundasolution.com/index.php/karen-kaliseks-top-20-thin…

    there is an alt text attribution and a link back to this page.

    Thank you for making it available,

    With best wishes

    Andrew

    Comment by wefoundasolution — December 3, 2013 #

  2. Andrew,

    Thanks for letting me know about the inclusion of this photo in your blog article; I thought it was a very interesting, and well-considered posting! And I’ve now included a "forward" link from my photo to your blog article.

    Cheers,
    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  3. Hello,

    we’ve just used your photo to illustrate one of our articles on Softpedia Science – How Thoughtful Words Save Marriages.

    You can view the article here: news.softpedia.com/news/How-Thoughtful-Words-Save-Marriag…

    Great photo, and thank you for uploading it under a CC license

    Tudor Vieru
    Softpedia Science News Editor

    Comment by Softpedia Science — December 3, 2013 #

  4. Tudor,

    Thanks for letting me know! Glad the photo was useful for your article.

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  5. Hey Ed, I think the recent one is Romanian, not Italian. You can see some similarities to Italian and Spanish, but odds are it is a Romanian blog. The blog author provides life coaching but I can’t tell how he incorporates the photograph into his themes.

    Comment by orcmid — December 3, 2013 #

  6. orcmid,

    Thanks for the clarification — I’m certainly not an expert in languages!

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  7. Hello dear friend,

    We feel very happy for this photo contribution, and it’s an honor for us to use great photos that are under CC licence as well!

    In addition to our previously mentioned: "Η ψυχολογική κακοποίηση των ανδρών", one more article about "Love after marriage" on our e-Magazine: "Τι συμβαίνει στην αγάπη μετά το γάμο"

    Thank you again for your support! :D


    on behalf of the student team in management of the portal/e-magazine/community at my.aegean.gr

    Comment by My.Aegean.gr student initiative — December 3, 2013 #

  8. Thanks for letting me know about the new publication; I have added a hyperlink from the Flickr page back to your article.

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  9. much appreciated! thank you again! :D

    Comment by My.Aegean.gr student initiative — December 3, 2013 #

  10. I belong to a group called ‘Bored Couples’ – I don’t run it or anything but your photo would certainly fit! http://www.flickr.com/groups/707594@N25/

    Comment by adamcreen — December 3, 2013 #

  11. Thanks — I joined the group, and added this photo to the group.

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  12. This is great. You have a wonderful eye and are able to capture human nature very nicely.

    Just wanted you to know that I used this photo on my site at:
    Communication Skill Lesson Plan

    Thanks for sharing!

    Comment by DogTreatBaker — December 3, 2013 #

  13. Thanks — glad you found it useful for your blog. You may have noticed, from the notes that I’ve attached to the photo, that it has been published roughly two dozen times in the nearly two years since I took the photograph.

    I’m always surprised when something like this happens, because these are extemporaneous, opportunistic photos — usually of something I just happen to notice out of the corner of my eye, and which I have to photograph in "candid" style, since I don’t know the subjects (and in this case don’t even speak their language), and can’t really ask them to pose for me…

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  14. And here’s another one. It adds an extra dimension to the pictures that I have for my article: "Communicating to improve family relationships". Thanks. Sally Powrie

    Comment by sallypowrie — December 3, 2013 #

  15. Thanks – glad you found it useful!

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  16. Hi Ed,
    Just wanted to let you know, I used this photo on my current article: Divorce with children: http://www.examiner.com/x-50754-Fort-Worth-Family-Court-Examiner…. It illustrated the point I needed to make perfectly. Thanks!

    Comment by rhonda_rh — December 3, 2013 #

  17. Hi!
    Thanks for giving this photo a Creative Commons license. We have used it in a blog post:
    http://www.athomemagazine.co.uk/home-a-garden/3539-its-a-guy-thing

    At Home Magazine

    Comment by athomemagazine — December 3, 2013 #

  18. Thank you for sharing your photograph. I have just used it to illustrate my article “Critical Thinking during an election campaign will save mistakes” on Suite.101, an on-line magazine. Alan Simpson

    Comment by Ace Reporter — December 3, 2013 #

  19. I am amazed at how many people have used this picture, you must be so thrilled! I’m adding another to your very long list, I saw it and thought it was perfect for my article "Long-Distance Relationships: How to Know When It’s Time to Call it Quits" (http://hubpages.com/hub/Long-Distance-Relationships-How-to-Know-When-its-Time-to-Call-it-Quits). Thank you for sharing it in Creative Commons!

    Comment by Marie Landry — December 3, 2013 #

  20. Thanks for letting me know — I’ll add your publication link to the long list that already exists!

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  21. Amy,

    Thanks, glad you found the photo useful. As you may have seen from the notes attached to this photo, it has been published dozens of times since I took it some two-and-a-half years ago.

    By coincidence, I’m in Rome right now — having just walked back to my hotel from a hight-tech computer conference that I’ve attended this week, on a path that led me right past the spot where this photo was taken, at the edge of Piazza del Popolo.

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  22. Thanks, glad you found the photo useful for your blog article.

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  23. Hi! Thank you! I used this photo for my article too. 4 reasons why open marriage doesn’t work
    Read here: offbeatmarriage.com/4-reasons-why-open-marriage-doesn%E2%…

    Comment by Offbeat Marriage — December 3, 2013 #

  24. I guess you captured every moment of your tour…thats so sweet..thanks for sharing it with us….

    Comment by Merchant Cash Advance — December 3, 2013 #

  25. What a great photo! Add yet another blog post to your list–I’m using it for "6 Common mistakes that can ruin your relationship" at 17000-days.com/2011/04/20/relationship-doom/ ‎

    Thanks for making this photo available under Creative Commons!

    Comment by fireliz — December 3, 2013 #

  26. Thanks for letting me know!

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  27. This picture is really helpful. I used it in a post i wrote today about the time a couple shoud wait for get reproductive assistance treatment.
    You can see the post in the link:
    http://www.reproduccion-asistida.net/larga-espera-para-recibir-t...

    Thanks a lot

    Comment by jsabogal — December 3, 2013 #

  28. Great shot! Fits perfectly to my article about broken homes on my Toronto real estate blog. Thanks!

    Comment by kinnear.julie — December 3, 2013 #

  29. Julie,

    Glad to hear that the photo was useful for your article. I had seen an item on my daily "Flickr statistics" indicating that you had linked to the photo … but unfortunately, the URL you’ve provided above appears to be "broken," according to my web browser.

    Cheers,
    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  30. Ed,

    I am using this photo for an article I’m writing. Here is the link to the article:
    bit.ly/oiAf5p

    Thanks so much!
    Kelly Cozzone

    Comment by kcozzone — December 3, 2013 #

  31. Kelly,

    Thanks for letting me know about the publication. And I’m glad the photo fit so well into the subject of your article!

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  32. Actually this photo (and use of it in blog posts etc) is probably illegal as EU privacy legislation expressly requires the photographed peoples’ permission before a photo can be published. And it doesn’t sound as if you got their permission as you say you don’t think they realise how often their photo has been used?

    Comment by Jill — December 3, 2013 #

  33. Jill,

    Thanks for the note. I’ll try to track down the relevant EU privacy legislation (which sounds like it may be different than in the U.S.) and see what should be done. Usually the restrictions are aimed at "commercial" publication of a photo, e.g., in an advertisement or book etc.

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  34. Hi Ed. Thank you for posting this photo and making it available for bloggers. You are inspiring me do the same thing with my photos (although I am not nearly as talented a photographer as you). I used the photo for a post "The Controversy over Cloud Computing Energy Efficiency" on the objectivecloud.com blog. Thanks again.

    Comment by media_cowboy — December 3, 2013 #

  35. Hi Ed, just to let you know I’ve used the picture in my post ‘When Is It Time To Move On From A Relationship’. You can see the post here: relationshipsuncovered.com/when-is-it-time-to-move-on-fro…

    I’d appreciate it if you could link to the post from this page. Thanks a lot, and thanks for the great picture. :)

    Comment by Shaun177 — December 3, 2013 #

  36. Thanks for letting me know. I’ve added a link from the "notes/comments" section above, back to your blog posting.

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  37. Hi Ed, just want to let you know that I have used this picture in my recent blog article.
    It was a good fit for me to show the importance of managing expectation in relationships.
    Here’s the link: winnerdynamics.com/manage-expectations/

    Thank you so much!

    Comment by Joseph Ch'ng — December 3, 2013 #

  38. Thanks — I had noticed the publication earlier today, and was going to post a link to your blog up in the "notes" section beneath the photo. But something is wrong with the HTML, and Flickr is complaining that it can’t add the new information. Haven’t figured it out yet … but anyway, thanks for letting me know about it.

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  39. Thanks from Australian Policy Online. This pic is on APO’s home page (with attribution) for a few days from 20th March 2012. See http://www.apo.org.au/ (illustrating a commentary piece called ‘Gender’). APO is a non profit website making the latest Australian and International social policy research available to the public. Thank you for listing your image with a Creative Commons license

    Comment by australianpolicyonline — December 3, 2013 #

  40. This was used here:
    consumerist.com/2012/03/money-moves-to-make-when-you-face…

    Comment by Blue387 — December 3, 2013 #

  41. sexy woman

    Comment by FORTRESSKRFT — December 3, 2013 #

  42. Thanks for sharing via Creative Commons. I’ve used your picture on my blog today: http://www.thewritingreader.com/blog/2012/04/02/prompt-290-the-m...

    Comment by thewritingreader — December 3, 2013 #

  43. Thanks for letting me know!

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  44. Really appreciate the CC License on this. We’ve used this picture on our most recent blog post angloitalianfollowus.com/2012/04/anglo-italian-experience… & we’ve also created a link through for the image & a thanks on our About page.

    I wonder if this couple ever realised how popular they were?

    Anglo.

    Comment by angloitalian followus — December 3, 2013 #

  45. Thanks for letting me know. I’m going to be in Rome next week, so I’ll look to see if the same couple is still arguing in Piazza del Popolo. If so, I’ll tell them how popular they have become! :)

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  46. Thanks for giving this image a creative commons license. I’ll be using it in my blog post called The Power of Real Communication to be published on May 16th. On that date, it can be found at http://www.jmlalonde.com/the-power-of-real-communication

    Comment by JosephLalonde — December 3, 2013 #

  47. Yours sincerely.

    I am writing Ríos de Tinta, a publishing house dedicated to publishing educational books and children’s literature-www.riosdetinta.com. We are currently making the publishing of a book "Civic and Ethics Education". It was in our interest to include this picture.
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/yourdon/2573762303

    It corresponds to its collection. That is why I am writing to ask for reprint permission. Credit will be cited iconographic [name of photographer] and tell us.

    Attentive to your comments,
    Franco Corona | Iconography and Copyright Management

    Morelos 16 Piso 5 06040 Center Cuauhtemoc, Mexico City, Mexico | [jose.corona @ riosdetinta.com] | http://www.riosdetinta.com | January 55 5140 4900 | Ext.31962 | Mobile: 045 55 2259 9556

    Comment by Ríos de Tinta SA de CV — December 3, 2013 #

  48. And I just used it on my blog.. http://www.sharinghousing.com/why-you-shouldnt-have-sex-with-you...

    Great picture.. almost used a different one of yours as well. Thanks for making it available.

    Comment by Annamarie_P — December 3, 2013 #

  49. Thanks for sharing in CC. We’ve used this in our blog at: http://www.andersons.com.au/lawtalk/posts/my-husband-and-i-have-...

    Comment by Andersons Solicitors Photo Albums — December 3, 2013 #

  50. This picture is wonderful! I’d like to use it in our blog projectcasting.com scheduled for posting August 10 2012, with your name given with photo credit and a link back to your flickr page. If you do not wish to have your work reproduced then please email me back at admin@projectcasting.com with a link to the picture and I’ll have it removed from our postings. Thank you for sharing on creative commons!!!

    Comment by Project Casting — December 3, 2013 #

  51. Thanks for letting me know — yes, it’s fine for you to use the photo in your blog posting.

    Sincerely,
    Ed Yourdon

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  52. Hey Ed Yourdon!

    I am a blogger and I’d like to include this photo in my blog post (www.jasonquey.com/love-not-rude/). I have given you credit for the photo and have linked to the photo.

    If there are any issues with using the photo, please let me know and I will gladly take down the photo.

    Comment by jasondquey — December 3, 2013 #

  53. Jasondquey,

    As long as your blog is a non-profit/non-commercial publication, there is no problem at all using this photo; and also no charge, no royalty, no license fee, etc. I have taken a quick look at your blog post, and it looks fine to me.

    Thanks for checking,
    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

  54. Thanks! I’ve used your photo here: clintonpower.com.au/2012/11/communication-basics-simple-s…

    Comment by AustraliaCounselling — December 3, 2013 #

  55. Thanks for this lovely picture–I have used it as featured image here sbabzy.com/advice-for-dealing-with-an-ex-partner/

    Comment by sbabzy — December 3, 2013 #

  56. Hi Ed, thank you for a good picture, it’s so real! I have used it in the article How to Treat a Man

    Comment by Lasun3000 — December 3, 2013 #

  57. Thanks Ed for sharing this picture..It captures the viewer’s imagination, including mine…I have watched it many times, and am still not tired of it..

    I have used it here – http://www.stress-and-relaxation.com/conflict-resolution-in-rela...

    Great pic!

    Comment by praveen333 — December 3, 2013 #

  58. praveen333,

    Thanks for your kind words; I’m glad that you are still finding pleasure from looking at this photo.

    As you can tell from all of the comments, as well as the links to a few hundred places that have published it, it has turned out to be a very popular photo indeed. And, for me, that makes it even more interesting that it was a completely unplanned, extemporaneous "street shot" taken as I walked past the couple in Rome’s Piazza del Popolo a few years ago. I’m sure these two people don’t even know that their photo was taken … and I’m glad that it has created so much pleasure without it being a "commercial" activity at all.

    Ed

    Comment by Ed Yourdon — December 3, 2013 #

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